Words of affirmation is a fun, easy to master, and inexpensive love language! All it requires is a little creativity. Here are a few ways I propose you can speak your spouses love language this Valentine’s Day!
One thing I discovered upon getting married, is that we all interpret love differently. As it turns out, my husband and I are polar opposites in the love languages realm. It takes a lot of intentionality to speak a language that doesn’t come naturally to you. Hopefully, some of the challenges we’re openly learning to navigate can translate into strength for you in your relationship this Valentine’s Day! I cannot recommend you read Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages” strongly enough. Whether you are single, dating, engaged, or married. It will help you love better, and receive love more easily.
Here are my top ways to speak “words of affirmation” this Valentine’s Day!
How to Say Good Morning!
Words of affirmation should be sprinkled throughout the day to really speak to the heart of your words of affirmation loving spouse. Do you have to leave before them for work? A post-it note by the coffee maker, on your pillow, or on the bathroom mirror are all great little surprises! If your partner goes to work before you, a note on the steering wheel, in their jacket pocket, or lunch box are great. The note can be short and sweet, but should be intentional (don’t think a practical text message will have the same impact as a hand-written note). If you struggle with what to say, pick one characteristic you really love about them, write it out and don’t underestimate it’s value!
In the words of Mark Twain “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”
Making the Most of Lunch Break!
If you are apart during lunch time and your primary love language is not words of affirmation. Do yourself and your spouse a favor, and set a timer in your phone to go off at lunch. Take a moment to call your spouse and let them know you’re thinking of them. Tell them how much you value them and can’t wait to spend time with them. If you have some wiggle room in your budget, send them flowers with a short but sweet note attached. Avoid saying anything critical or turning the conversation into anything overly practical. Keep it short, sweet, and focus on them. Remember, consistency is what will make this day special for them!
If their primary love language is words of affirmation, how can you make quality time during a date into a special event? Avoid activities that allow you to disconnect like movies. Opt for something interactive, like dinner and a walk steer clear of negative language. If you are exchanging gifts – try to get creative. For Wife’s the “Reasons Why I Love My Wife” book is fully customizable and oh, so sweet! There is also a “25 Reasons Why I Love My Husband” book. If you are engaged, or dating – there are customizable books available for you as well!
The Rest of the Night….
Obviously, the rest of the evening is up to you, I’d venture to guess that if you are attentive, caring, and showering your spouse in words of affirmation throughout the day, you’re evening will be pretty fabulous too! If you aren’t quite sure what your love language is, this short quiz from Gary Chapman should help you determine it in no time!