Physical touch is a love language that most of us speak quite naturally, early on in our relationships. But it’s easy to forget it’s importance as your marriage matures. I believe every couple needs to keep this love language a top priority, whether it is their primary love language or not.
My husband and I are complete opposites in love languages, so this is a skill we both are navigating constantly. I really hope that our open learning experience can become a strength for you and your spouse in your marriage! I cannot recommend you read Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages” strongly enough. Whether you are single, dating, engaged, or married. It will help you love better, and receive love more easily.
Here are my top ways to speak “Physical Touch” this Valentine’s Day!
How to Say Good Morning!
Okay, non-physical touch oriented spouse. Here is your challenge. Wake up, breathe through your mouth to avoid inhaling their dragon breath, and kiss them good morning! Take a few extra minutes to show them your appreciation before you part ways for the day, you can get as creative as you’d like here. But remember, people who thrive on physical touch receive love even from touches as simple as a shoulder rub, or foot massage. What really matters is that you take the extra time to express your love today, instead of just rushing through your typical morning routine. People who love physical touch, typically really enjoy soft fabrics, and cozy things. Surprise them with a small card and a super soft throw blanket or bath robe!
Making the Most of Lunch Break!
If you are apart during lunch time, this is your moment to get creative and speak physical touch from a distance. Set a reminder to go off during your lunch break, and write a detailed message about how you’d like to touch your spouse when you see them later. You can make it as sweet or as steamy as you like – this love language will appreciate either. The important thing here is that you follow through. If you tell them you can’t wait to squeeze them when you get home, then you walk through the door and walk past them, they will be understandably let down.
Song of Solomon 1:2
Kiss me and kiss me again,
for your love is sweeter than wine.
Dates are so much fun when your spouses love language is physical touch! Along with dinner, you should include a fun, physical activity. This love language would enjoy bowling, playing pool together, golf, or suspenseful escape rooms where they can grab ahold of you. Any high-touch activity will suffice and leave them feeling so loved and excited! If you are exchanging gifts, consider sensual massage oils you can use on them, or soft lingerie you can both enjoy.
The Rest of the Night….
Obviously, the sky is the limit with this fun, high-touch love language. Find ways to express appreciation of them physically. Look for opportunities to hug, kiss, and squeeze your spouse throughout the day. They will treasure every minute of your attentiveness. If you aren’t quite sure what your love language is, this short quiz from Gary Chapman should help you determine it in no time!