Giving and receiving gifts is often undervalued and overlooked in society today. We equate gifts with materialism, and that just isn’t fair to anyone whose primary love language is gifts. Most people who love to give and receive gifts will assure you that the value of what’s given has very little to do with the cost.
One thing I discovered upon getting married, is that we all interpret love differently. As it turns out, my husband and I are polar opposites in the love languages realm. It takes a lot of intentionality to speak a language that doesn’t come naturally to you. Hopefully, some of the challenges we’re openly learning to navigate can translate into strength for you in your relationship this Valentine’s Day! I cannot recommend you read Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages” strongly enough. Whether you are single, dating, engaged, or married. It will help you love better, and receive love more easily.
Here are my top ways to speak “Gifts” this Valentine’s Day!
How to Say Good Morning!
The intentionality that goes behind speaking each love language is unique, but in my opinion – gifts require the most forethought. There is a massive difference between something you picked up last minute at the jewelry store, and something you bought with intentionality from the dollar store to this person. Be intentional! Valentine’s Day is on the same exact day every single year, set a reminder in your calendar for the beginning of February and begin brainstorming what special gift you will get your spouse for Valentine’s Day. I recommend picking up a few small trinkets, and one main gift for this love language. In the morning, leave them with a small box of chocolates to show them you were thinking of them ahead of time. Then work your way up as the day progresses!
Making the Most of Lunch Break!
If you and your spouse are separate during lunch time, don’t despair! The parade of gifts can easily continue in your absence. Plant your next small surprise for your spouse in a place they aren’t likely to check otherwise – perhaps the glovebox of their car? Then set a reminder to call them during lunch break, and tell them that where you’ve hidden their surprise! You don’t need to think too far outside of the box for this item. If you are taking them on a date later, consider buying them a scarf or tie that they can wear out on your date!
I am a massive fan of Groupon, I can’t think of a better way to plan a date actually. For this love language, you can include dinner, and then a fun Groupon Activity that is different from your normal. Most communities offer community scavenger hunts you can take at your own leisure, they usually last between 1-2 hours. You can spend this time discovering exciting new parts of your city with your spouse. Don’t forget to bring their final gift to open at the end of the hunt! If you are able to splurge on something like jewelry or a watch – that is fantastic. But don’t allow something as insignificant as money to limit you. See what you can make for your spouse, a mixed-CD or playlist of songs that make you think of them will be treasured!
The Rest of the Night….
The rest of the evening, is truly about reaping the benefits of your own attentiveness. Your spouse will feel tremendously loved, and valued by you. This will likely lead to a love-filled evening for each of you. If you aren’t quite sure what your love language is, this short quiz from Gary Chapman should help you determine it in no time!