Acts of service as a love language can feel unnatural to master. It is all about putting in work – which can challenge anyone after a long day of raising kids, or on the job. But for an acts of service loving spouse, a little extra effort will carry them a long way in feeling valued and loved by you.
One thing I discovered upon getting married, is that we all interpret love differently. As it turns out, my husband and I are polar opposites in the love languages realm. It takes a lot of intentionality to speak a language that doesn’t come naturally to you. Hopefully, some of the challenges we’re openly learning to navigate can translate into strength for you in your relationship this Valentine’s Day! I cannot recommend you read Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages” strongly enough. Whether you are single, dating, engaged, or married. It will help you love better, and receive love more easily.
My favorite ways to speak “Acts of Service” this Valentine’s Day!
How to Say Good Morning!
The acts of service loving spouse, is the person who would adore being served breakfast in bed more than any other. Even if it means setting your alarm and waking up ahead of them to pick up breakfast nearby to serve them in bed – do it. It is one day out of the year and this little service to them will speak volumes. If you can cook the breakfast yourself – even better! Whatever you do, don’t complain, and don’t make a big deal out of the sacrifice involved. Remember that this is an act of love, so give them breakfast in bed in a spirit of love. This simple act will stay with them throughout the day!
Making the Most of Lunch Break!
Pack, or order your spouse lunch to be delivered to them on break. Call them to give them a warning before the delivery service shows up. Just taking the responsibility of feeding them at lunch time will mean so much. If you prepare and pack them lunch, you could include yummy chocolate covered valentine’s day treats! Even if you don’t add an unusual treat, you can still add a sweet note for them – thanking them for their hard work and sacrifice. The spouse who loves in acts of service can sometimes feel like their sacrifice and hard work isn’t seen for what it is. An act of selflessness and love.
Whatever it is you choose to do for date time, plan everything! If you plan to cook your spouses favorite dinner at home, also plan on cleaning it up afterwards. But if you are at home and your spouse is at work, pick out their date outfit and have it ironed and waiting for their arrival. If your stay at home spouse is the one who prefers acts of service. Order deeply discounted services for them off of Groupon – like at home auto detailing, or a few hours of a home cleaning service! If you go out, drive, open every door for them, pull their seat out. All of these little personal touches will speak love to them!
The Rest of the Night….
Don’t slack off when you come home! Don’t overshadow your acts of service throughout the day, with laziness at night. Remain engaged, help them get the kids to bed, or fold that last little bit of laundry. Remember you are investing love, not work. If you aren’t quite sure what your love language is, this short quiz from Gary Chapman should help you determine it in no time!