Quality time as a love language can be difficult to achieve in the increasingly busy world we are all living in. It is essential when expressing love to this person, you keep your phone turned off, and offer true quality time free of social media, cell phones, other people, and work.
One thing I discovered upon getting married, is that we all interpret love differently. As it turns out, my husband and I are polar opposites in the love languages realm. It takes a lot of intentionality to speak a language that doesn’t come naturally to you. Hopefully, some of the challenges we’re openly learning to navigate can translate into strength for you in your relationship this Valentine’s Day! I cannot recommend you read Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages” strongly enough. Whether you are single, dating, engaged, or married. It will help you love better, and receive love more easily.
Here are my favorite ways to “speak” quality time this Valentine’s Day!
How to Say Good Morning!
Breakaway from your normal routine completely to enjoy quality time. If you normally wake up and begin checking social media or work emails, keep your phone turned off. Invite your spouse to come drink coffee and eat cereal with you in your PJ’s together. Or bring them breakfast in bed! Talk to them, and make sure you are taking time to listen too. Don’t try to race the clock to work this morning. If it is possible – leave a few minutes later than normal. Your spouse will soak in every moment of quality time you offer.
Making the Most of Lunch Break!
If you work close to home, or you have a long enough lunch break to make the trip – do it! Show up at the house or at their job on lunch break unannounced. Surprise them by having lunch ready for both of you. Then sit, and eat it together. Enjoy their company in a unhurried way. To keep you on track, set an alarm on your phone so you don’t leave late. Otherwise keep your phone in your pocket. If share lunch break is not an option, then do the next best thing, call your spouse! Not a quick 5 minute “just checking in” call. But a call that lasts longer than normal, ask them about their day or their plans. Talk to them about what you hope to enjoy together later. They will love the unexpected surprise of your full attention.
One of the best gifts you can give your quality-time loving spouse, is an unexpected early day out of the office. Even if it’s just 15 minutes sooner than normal, they will notice and appreciate it tremendously! Depending on your spouses personality, they could enjoy a nice evening out, or they could really enjoy cooking dinner together! I’ve seen awesome deals from Groupon offering kits to make your own sushi at home, or order other at home meal kits! If they prefer a night on the town, they may really enjoy taking a painting class with you, or something similarly engaging and creative!
The Rest of the Night….
I am positive your spouse will appreciate you spending the rest of the night just as devoted to quality time as you started it. Focus on meeting their needs and I think you’ll be surprised how much more natural it is for them to reach out to you in your love language! If you aren’t quite sure what your love language is, this short quiz from Gary Chapman should help you determine it in no time!